When it comes to selecting a baby name, it can be hard to agree on one with your partner.
One woman claims to have found herself in a particularly tricky situation regarding names, as her husband wants them to take part in a naming tradition.
In a post on Reddit’s Relationship Advice forum, the woman explained that her husband’s family have two names for boys that they have been alternating over the last few generations.
She doesn’t like the name that he and his family want them to call their future child but is concerned about ruining the tradition and causing a “family war”.
“My husband and I are planning on having a baby, but the thing is I’m terrified it’s going to be a boy because it’s going to cause a family war over the name,” she said.
“He comes from a line of three generations so far that have alternated the names Matthew and Fred.
“He said the oldest son has to name their first son the opposite so we’d have to name our son Fred Matthew. I just am cringing.”
The wife explains that the name Fred has a bad association in her family so she doesn’t want to call her child that.
“He’s standing firm on this, but I have to be pregnant and give birth… I just wish there was something we could agree on,” she continued.
“I’m going to have to be the one to destroy a family tradition and disappoint them all.
“I’ve always had ideas of names my whole life and I just feel like my right is being stripped from me because of this.”
She added that when she discusses children with her in-laws, they just “assume” she’s already agreed to name a boy Fred.
More than 280 people have responded to her Reddit post, sharing advice and encouraging the woman to pick a name she likes as well.
One person wrote: “A baby’s name is a two yes, one no situation. If you don’t like the name Fred, the baby’s name isn’t Fred, just like he gets veto power over a name he doesn’t want. You two need to come to an agreement together and he needs to have your back with his family.”
Another commented: “Please explain to your hubs that three generations of one set of names is not a tradition!”
A third posted: “I’d ask him why he thinks you get zero say in the naming of your child, cause that’s just nuts.”
“If he always intended this, you think he would have brought it up and had it agreed upon earlier in the relationship. It seems like kind of a deal breaker to have your potential child’s name predetermined,” added someone else.
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